http://www.christianleadershipalliance.org/?page=conflict_resolution
In this article, Ron Jenson discusses conflict resolution as Christian Leaders. He gives key points from the God’s word of how we should react during conflict: strive to maintain the unity of faith, be perfected in unity, esteem others higher than yourself, admonish a brother in a spirit of humility, be reconciled first to your brother, if you’re offended go to your brother and speak to him, forgive one another and speak the truth in love. I believe it was necessary to incorporate these points because as leaders we should all meditate on these passages to be sure that we apply these Scriptures in our lives. Benson also gives 12 steps to resolving conflict that are integral as leaders. He begins discussing why we react to conflict the way we do, then talks about handling anger, learning to listen instead of trying to win, jumping to conclusions, learning when to share your feelings, taming your tongue, speaking the truth in love, no personal attacks, being specific, dealing with the person and not complaining to others and being gentle. This article is great for all leaders to effectively handle conflicts in love. How often do we handle conflict incorrectly and later think how we could have handled it differently? Do we humbly go back and try to rectify the situation or admit our error? Do we look within first and resolve any unhealthy tendencies resulting from our past that are interfering with us being effective Christian leaders? As you read look inward to discover where you may need growth.
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ReplyDeleteI was listening to a sermon the other day that was talking about conflict in marriage. The pastor did not say “if” there is conflict, but “when” there is conflict. I think that this statement is true for all relationships, especially in those that involve leader/follower dynamics. As a leader, it is important to not only know how to resolve conflict but also to know what the Bible says about conflict resolution. This article has many positive, biblically based points. What I found interesting, however, was your question at the end of the post. You said, “Do we look within first and resolve any unhealthy tendencies resulting from our past that are interfering with us being effective Christian leaders?” This is a step in the process of conflict resolution that is so easy for me to overlook. I am sure that when conflict arises, there are certain tendencies that I bring to the table that are contributing factors. The conflict is not completely the result of the other party. I do not think that our past, as you say, disqualifies us or hinders us from being effective Christian leaders. At least not if we are aware of it and have learned from our mistakes, so as not to repeat them.
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